"When you’re a trans woman you are made to walk this very fine line, where if you act feminine you are accused of being a parody and if you act masculine, it is seen as a sign of your true male identity. And if you act sweet and demure, you’re accused of reinforcing patriarchal ideas of female passivity, but if you stand up for your own rights and make your voice heard, then you are dismissed as wielding male privilege and entitlement. We trans women are made to teeter on this tightrope, not because we are transsexuals, but because we are women. This is the same double bind that forces teenage girls to negotiate their way between virgin and whore, that forces female politicians and business women to be agressive without being seen as a bitch, and to be feminine enough not to emasculate their alpha male colleagues, without being so girly as to undermine their own authority."

— Julia Serano, Excluded: Making Feminist and Queer Movements More Inclusive, p 28-9 (via bisexual-books)

transgirladventures:


This example is mostly in ‘female-empowerment’ circles, but it comes up everywhere. Binary Trans people are expected to live up to ridiculous extremes for their gender in order to be accepted as credible. And if we don’t, then we get the lovely comment of “If you wanted to do X so much, why didn’t you just stay as your birth gender”. THAT’S NOT HOW IT WORKS. And most people aren’t even conscious of it. But if you have ever thought that of course that transwoman didn’t pass, she won’t even shave her legs! Or that transman shouldn’t be wearing such feminine clothes YOU ARE PART OF THE PROBLEM. YOU ARE SUPPORTING AND FORCING GENDER STEREOTYPES ON US. AND WE WANT YOU TO STOP.

My boyfriend wrote a lovely rant to go with this post.

transgirladventures:

This example is mostly in ‘female-empowerment’ circles, but it comes up everywhere. Binary Trans people are expected to live up to ridiculous extremes for their gender in order to be accepted as credible. And if we don’t, then we get the lovely comment of “If you wanted to do X so much, why didn’t you just stay as your birth gender”. THAT’S NOT HOW IT WORKS. And most people aren’t even conscious of it. But if you have ever thought that of course that transwoman didn’t pass, she won’t even shave her legs! Or that transman shouldn’t be wearing such feminine clothes YOU ARE PART OF THE PROBLEM. YOU ARE SUPPORTING AND FORCING GENDER STEREOTYPES ON US. AND WE WANT YOU TO STOP.

My boyfriend wrote a lovely rant to go with this post.

gentlemenfck:

Men with battle wounds part 2.


(Don’t own pictures. Photos I found on public sites. If you’d like credit or to be removed message me. )

Part one has over 13,000 but lacks men of color so I did a part two for equal representation.

The Dead Name game

everevolvinghuman:

In your life, you may meet or know people who use a different name than they were born with.

  1. Don’t ask what that dead name is.
  2. Don’t use the dead name if you happen to know it.
  3. If you accidentally use the dead name, apologize profusely and do everything you can  to make sure you don’t screw it up again.

The is a reason the person you’re talking to uses a different name now.

USE IT

Yesterday, I showed someone a picture of my cat.

notalwaysluminous:

Her response was, “Oh, she’s so cute! What’s her name?” I replied, “He’s a boy, and his name is Rowan.”

And she immediately apologized, corrected herself, and used the right pronouns from then on. Totally no big deal at all.

If this is literally that fucking easy to do with a CAT, for Pete’s sake, why do people act like it’s so hard to do with trans people?!

kpunicorn:

This is so important. It exemplifies the difference between society’s view of DFAB trans people (Takatsuki) and DMAB trans people (Nitori), and it fits into a photoset. To the school administration and students Takatsuki’s seen as just having fun, but Nitori is viewed as sick and “a freak”.

lgbtlaughs:

jesus h christ cis parents, your child is not dead, they’re just not the gender you assumed!!

lgbtlaughs:

jesus h christ cis parents, your child is not dead, they’re just not the gender you assumed!!

airagorncharda:

"female/male bodied":

  • I’m a man, this is my body. It doesn’t matter what I was assigned at birth, this is my body and I am a man, and therefore this body is a man’s body, and therefore a male body
  • this is erasure of intersex people
  • this is erasure of nonbinary people
  • you don’t actually give…

cisharming:

If a trans woman is telling you that a term you’re using is misgendering her and offending her, here’s how you properly argue against her:

  • you don’t
  • you are wrong
  • you are misgendering her
  • stop it

popculturesavvyangel:

A series of humorous, false subtitles

(via ssjdebusk)